{"product_id":"anger-resentment-and-forgiveness-jim-byrne-9781791370862","title":"Anger, resentment and forgiveness: How to get your anger under reasonable control","description":"The E-CENT theory of anger says that anger is \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eone of our basic emotions\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e. It's \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003einnate\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eIt was selected by nature for its \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003esurvival value\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eWe would not survive for long without an innate sense of angering in response to abuse or neglect. We also would not survive for long if we did not quickly learn how to \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003emoderate\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e our anger as young children. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eMy anger (just like your anger) is a two-edged sword. It can help to protect me, and it can attract hostile reactions from others. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eMy basic, innate emotion of anger is elaborated into a \"socialized thinking-related emotion\", through modelling and behaviour-shaping interactions with my mother and father, and significant others, in the first few years of my life. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eIt is also shaped by my successful and my unsuccessful experiences of engaging in conflict with others. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eI may become an \u003cb\u003eexploder\u003c\/b\u003e, who erupts in the faces of others. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eI may become an imploder, who keeps his anger inside. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eOr I may hide my anger from myself (repress it) and then \"mentally project it\" into my social environment where it may frighten me. (I think my anger is directed at me from others around me!) \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eSo anger is a socialized emotion, and if you grew up with angry people, you are likely to be prone to angering yourself when provoked; or you might feel fearful of your own anger, or the anger of others. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eHealthy anger is present-time defence of your legitimate rights in the face of inappropriate behaviour by another person. Healthy or reasonable anger is the fuel that drives our assertive behaviours. It pushes us to engage in constructive conflict, when that is necessary! \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eTo ask for what you want, which is legitimately yours to request, requires a certain level of 'fire in your belly'. If you lack that fire (that reasonable level of anger), then you will tend to 'wimp-out'; to act passively and let other people control you, or intimidate you, or deny you your reasonable share of the social stage. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eUnhealthy or unreasonable anger, on the other hand, is an over-reaction to a frustrating or insulting stimulus from another person or external force. Unhealthy or unreasonable anger leads to aggressive actions and destructive conflict. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- This book will teach you eight insights into your anger management problems... \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- Six ways to reframe your anger-inducing problem, so they become more manageable... \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- You will develop a comprehensive understanding of the nature of anger in yourself and others. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- You will learn how to substitute \"assertive communication\" for destructive anger and aggression... \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- The art of forgiveness, based on two models that you can easily learn... \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- How to understand and improve your \"conflict style\"; and how to support that with a healthy lifestyle.\u003cbr\u003e... And much more besides. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Jim Byrne\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 1791370861\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781791370862\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 03\/05\/2019\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 278\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.83lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.58d","brand":"Jim Byrne","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":48587899371775,"sku":"9781791370862","price":25.64,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/anger-resentment-and-forgiveness-jim-byrne-9781791370862","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}