{"product_id":"bathwater-out-with-the-babies-peter-ozug-9798994755372","title":"Bathwater out with the Babies: Sex, Love, and Marriage in a World Where Fertility is Optional","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWe don't need to go backward, but we sure can't continue like this.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFor all but the last two generations of human history, sex could always lead to pregnancy. This mundane fact was a foundation societies were built on.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut after the introduction of reliable birth control, that foundational reality became optional.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis gave us the opportunity to evaluate what was built on that foundation and we took it.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSince human sexuality, marital norms, and sex differences were largely based on pregnancy, it wasn't crazy to reconsider them when fertility became optional.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut looking at the carnage that is modern dating, at male loneliness and female unhappiness, and at the hostility between the sexes; we have gone too far. Many of the norms we threw away were essential after all. Either essential to our nature or at least essential to the broader society we want to be a part of.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBathwater out with the Babies is about what is still essential.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt starts with biology. What humans are ordered to before culture and certainly before birth control.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNext is a description of American culture before the sexual revolution. This was the last coherent, stable culture we had. To see the flaws in our own disorder, we need a comparison and this is the closest functioning culture to what we currently have.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNext is what remains after birth control severed the sex\/pregnancy link: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThat sex still leads to bonding\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThat marriage is still valuable; before or without children\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThat there are substantial differences between men and women beyond pregnancy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAfter establishing this new foundation of what we are and what we still must be, it is applied: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe elements of marriage we need to have to make the most of the relationship.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhy a deliberate marriage with an actual wedding is more valuable than ever despite how acceptable it is to shack up without getting married.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhy to marry the right person as soon as practicable and what to do while you are searching for them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdeally, this book finds you young enough to make the most of it. To help you work towards the marriage, family, and life you want before our society's default path constrains you.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut it is fun for all and everyone will learn plenty.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAnyone who has ever asked, \"what is wrong with the other sex?\"\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAny woman who has doubted the men who claim they can't get a date while the men that she dates treat her as disposable.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAny man who has had his head bitten off for respecting a woman by calling her \"ma'am.\"\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut most important, this book will show you why it is better to be married than not and why it is better to be married as soon as you are ready.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Peter Ozug\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9798994755372\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Lyra Press\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 06\/01\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 246\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.67lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.61d","brand":"Peter Ozug","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":50666047602943,"sku":"9798994755372","price":19.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/bathwater-out-with-the-babies-peter-ozug-9798994755372","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}