{"product_id":"grieving-differently-timoth-sylvia-9781966655831","title":"Grieving Differently: Queering the Stages of Grief","description":"\u003cp\u003eGrief follows no rules and honors no timeline. So why do we keep pretending it does?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen Timoth Sylvia's husband, Peter, died suddenly, the grief that followed didn't look like anything he had been taught to expect. His grief was heavier and lonelier than any framework allowed. It was also, he came to realize, queerer, shaped by an identity and a love the usual map had never been drawn for.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGrieving Differently is what came of that realization. Part memoir, part reimagining of the stages of grief, it follows Sylvia through the disorienting first year and a half after Peter's death and asks what the stages reveal when we stop treating them as a checklist and start grieving honestly, from the inside.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGrieving Differently meets you in the moments other books skip past: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe fog that blurs the hours you most need to remember\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe pressure to grieve quietly, quickly, and on someone else's timeline\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe exhaustion of explaining your loss again and again \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe slow, disorienting work of becoming someone new in the wake of who you've lost\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDrawing on the hard-won wisdom of the queer community - a community that knows what it means to tell a difficult truth, again and again, and to survive it - Sylvia offers a way of grieving that refuses rigid timelines and makes room for the fullness of loss. Along the way, he names a stage you won't find in any textbook: Coming Out, the ongoing, sacred act of speaking your changed self aloud to a world that assumes otherwise. It is an insight born from queer experience and offered freely to everyone who grieves.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis is a book for anyone learning to live with loss, whether you are grieving a spouse, a child, a friend, a relationship, or a version of life that is gone. It is for the bereaved who have been told they are doing it wrong, and for the pastors, chaplains, coaches, and friends who walk beside them.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e---\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGrieving Differently is published by Tehom Center Publishing, an independent press elevating queer and BIPOC voices. Discover more at tehomcenter.com.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Timoth Sylvia\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 1966655835\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781966655831\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Tehom Center Publishing\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 10\/06\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 218\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.66lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.46d","brand":"Timoth Sylvia","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":49097377317119,"sku":"9781966655831","price":19.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/grieving-differently-timoth-sylvia-9781966655831","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}