{"product_id":"how-to-do-consent-without-mia-schachter-9798889843665","title":"How to Do Consent (Without Sounding Like a Robot): Learning Boundaries, Navigating Discomfort, and Getting to Know What You Really Want","description":"\u003cb\u003eEssential, up-to-date guidance on consent and sex for anyone who's having it--and everyone who wants to do it better. \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eEmpowered practices, embodied skills, and frame-changing advice for navigating consent, pursuing pleasure, and building connection in the real world. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003ePart practical guide, part cultural critique, this book offers braver, more creative, and more empowered visions of what sex can (and should) be. Essential reading for anyone having sex in the 21st century, How to Do Consent moves the conversation past stale and rigid assumptions toward one rooted in connection, fulfillment, and self-discovery. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eTimely, provocative, real-world, and affirming, Schachter's work dispels misconceptions like: \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\"Consent can be done perfectly\"\u003c\/b\u003e When in practice, it's relative, subjective, fluid, and interpersonal--there's no one right way to do it.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\"If you can't talk about sex, you shouldn't be having it\"\u003c\/b\u003e Abstinence lite is unrealistic; talking about sex requires experience, trial, and error.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\"Consent will save us\"\u003c\/b\u003e Consent is a harm-reduction strategy, not a panacea.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\"Enthusiasm is a requirement for consensual sex\"\u003c\/b\u003e Utterly unenthusiastic but totally consensual sex happens all the time. It's fine!\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\"Consent is something that men do for women\"\u003c\/b\u003e It's a shared, communal responsibility--and anyone of any gender can violate another's' boundaries.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\"Sexuality is always innate and unchangeable\"\u003c\/b\u003e While honoring the reality that many are \"born this way,\" Schachter shares how their own desires and sexuality have been both fluid and actively sculpted.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGrounded in Schachter's work as an intimacy coordinator and sex educator--and informed by insights from sex workers, therapists, kink practitioners, and community leaders--\u003ci\u003eHow to Do Consent (Without Sounding Like a Robot)\u003c\/i\u003e offers a provocative and bitingly funny alternative to the myths and practices that keep us silent, confused, anxious, and disconnected--and that hold us back from asking for (and discovering) what we really want.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Mia Schachter\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9798889843665\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e North Atlantic Books\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 09\/15\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 256\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.81lbs","brand":"Mia Schachter","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":48447196692735,"sku":"9798889843665","price":21.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0662\/2982\/9887\/files\/img_6738d1f6-81d5-4941-b213-c9aca9e5f7bd.jpg?v=1777229491","url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/how-to-do-consent-without-mia-schachter-9798889843665","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}