{"product_id":"parenting-without-losing-yourself-tim-ervin-9798176222791","title":"Parenting Without Losing Yourself: How Your Attachment, Triggers, and Nervous System Shape the Parent You Become","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat if the hardest parenting moments aren't only about your child's behavior-but about what that behavior activates in you?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou can know how you want to parent and still hear yourself saying things you promised you would never say. You can understand that your child needs connection and still become controlling, anxious, withdrawn, overly accommodating, or overwhelmed when the moment gets difficult.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eParenting Without Losing Yourself\u003c\/b\u003e explores what happens when your child's emotions, behavior, and growing independence meet your own attachment history, triggers, expectations, and nervous system.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDrawing on attachment, nervous-system regulation, and decades of therapeutic experience, therapist and coach \u003cb\u003eTim Ervin\u003c\/b\u003e helps parents understand the patterns that can quietly shape their reactions-not to blame themselves or their own parents, but to create more choice in the moments that matter.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThrough relatable family stories and practical clinical insight, you'll learn how to recognize when worry becomes overprotection, when connection becomes people-pleasing, when fear disguises itself as control, and when a child's behavior begins to carry meanings much larger than the behavior itself.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAt the heart of the book is a simple framework: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eNOTICE → REGULATE → CONNECT → BOUNDARY → REPAIR → RELEASE\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou'll learn how to become steady enough to respond rather than react, remain connected without abandoning necessary limits, repair the relationship when things go wrong, and gradually allow your child to become a person you cannot-and do not need to completely control.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book is not about becoming a perfectly calm parent. It is about recognizing the parent you become when you're triggered and creating enough space between reaction and response to choose what happens next.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHealthy parenting isn't about never losing your way. It is about learning how to return to yourself, to your child, and to the relationship you are building together.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Tim Ervin\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9798176222791\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 09\/30\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 168\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.51lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.36d","brand":"Tim Ervin","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":50848670679295,"sku":"9798176222791","price":16.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/parenting-without-losing-yourself-tim-ervin-9798176222791","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}