{"product_id":"remembering-the-music-forgetting-the-kate-whouley-9780807003190","title":"Remembering the Music, Forgetting the Words: Travels with Mom in the Land of Dementia","description":"From the author of the much-loved memoir \u003ci\u003eCottage for Sale, Must Be Moved \u003c\/i\u003ecomes an engaging and inspiring account of a daughter who must face her mother's premature decline. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e In \u003ci\u003eRemembering the Music, \u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eForgetting the Words, \u003c\/i\u003eKate Whouley\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003estrips away the romantic veneer of mother-daughter love to bare the toothed and tough reality of caring for a parent who is slowly losing her mind. Yet, this is not a dark or dour look at the demon of Alzheimer's. Whouley shares the trying, the tender, and the sometimes hilarious moments in meeting the challenge also known as Mom. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e As her mother, Anne, falls into forgetting, Kate remembers for her. In Anne we meet a strong-minded, accidental feminist with a weakness for unreliable men. The first woman to apply for--and win--a department-head position in her school system, Anne was an innovative educator who poured her passion into her work. House-proud too, she made certain her Hummel figurines were dusted and arranged just so. But as her memory falters, so does her housekeeping. Surrounded by stacks of dirty dishes, piles of laundry, and months of unopened mail, Anne needs Kate's help--but she doesn't want to relinquish her hard-won independence any more than she wants to give up smoking. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Time and time again, Kate must balance Anne's often nonsensical demands with what she believes are the best decisions for her mother's comfort and safety. This is familiar territory for anyone who has had to help a loved one in decline, but Kate finds new and different ways to approach her mother and her forgetting. Shuddering under the weight of accumulating bills and her mother's frustrating, circular arguments, Kate realizes she must push past difficult family history to find compassion, empathy, and good humor.\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eWhen the memories, the names, and then the words begin to fade, it is the music that matters most to Kate's mother. Holding hands after a concert, a flute case slung over Kate's shoulder, and a shared joke between them, their relationship is healed--even in the face of a dreaded and deadly diagnosis. \"Memory,\" Kate Whouley writes, \"is overrated.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Kate Whouley\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0807003190\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780807003190\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Beacon Press\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 09\/06\/2011\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 240\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Hardcover\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.93lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.56h x 5.85w x 0.86d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAward:\u003c\/b\u003e New England Book Award - Winner\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eReview Citation(s): \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eShelf Awareness\u003c\/i\u003e 09\/09\/2011","brand":"Kate Whouley","offers":[{"title":"Hardcover","offer_id":48658932924671,"sku":"9780807003190","price":24.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/remembering-the-music-forgetting-the-kate-whouley-9780807003190","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}