{"product_id":"stopping-the-violence-david-j-decker-9780789007094","title":"Stopping The Violence: A Group Model To Change Men'S Abusive Att...Workbook","description":"This informative and helpful guide will assist your clients in making positive strides toward a nonviolent life. Some of the tips and suggestions that are further explained in this workbook include: \u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAcknowledge to yourself and to others that you have a problem with anger, abuse, and control \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAddress mental health and chemical use issues if they are present in your life \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCome to know that, when you become abusive, you are always feeling inadequate, powerless, and unlovable \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRealize that controlling and abusive behavior hurts you and those you love \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstand that anger is different from abuse and control \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRecognize that becoming abusive is always a choice \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInstead of blaming others, take responsibility for what you feel, how you think, and how you act \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAccept that you cannot control or change other people \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemember that you can always take a time-out \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThink about the possible consequences before you become controlling and abusive \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdentify what triggers your anger and your abusive and controlling attitudes and behaviors \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNotice what you are thinking: Your thoughts can increase your escalation or calm you down \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBecome aware of all your feelings, not just your anger, and learn to respectfully communicate them to others \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTurn conflicts into positive problem-solving opportunities \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eControl, abuse, and violence are learned: Think about the messages you received from your family and from society about what it is to be a man \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRedefine manhood as nonviolent and nonabusive \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake the risk to count on other men for emotional support \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLearn to feel a genuine sense of pride by taking control of how you view the world and how you act \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStart to believe that you can truly change the controlling and abusive parts of who you have been \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e David J. Decker\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0789007096\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780789007094\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Routledge\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 08\/18\/1999\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 318\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 1.08lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.66h x 6.36w x 0.81d","brand":"David J. Decker","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":48086860529919,"sku":"9780789007094","price":44.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0662\/2982\/9887\/files\/img_5141d577-3ce8-4c87-b1c3-6eef4a9ccaeb.jpg?v=1769096999","url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/stopping-the-violence-david-j-decker-9780789007094","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}