{"product_id":"stopping-the-violence-david-j-decker-9781138467477","title":"Stopping the Violence: A Group Model to Change Men's Abusive Att...Workbook","description":"\u003cp\u003eThis informative and helpful guide will assist your clients in making positive strides toward a nonviolent life. Some of the tips and suggestions that are further explained in this workbook include: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eAcknowledge to yourself and to others that you have a problem with anger, abuse, and control\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eAddress mental health and chemical use issues if they are present in your life\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eCome to know that, when you become abusive, you are always feeling inadequate, powerless, and unlovable\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eRealize that controlling and abusive behavior hurts you and those you love\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eUnderstand that anger is different from abuse and control\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eRecognize that becoming abusive is always a choice\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eInstead of blaming others, take responsibility for what you feel, how you think, and how you act\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eAccept that you cannot control or change other people\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eRemember that you can always take a time-out\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eThink about the possible consequences before you become controlling and abusive\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eIdentify what triggers your anger and your abusive and controlling attitudes and behaviors\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eNotice what you are thinking: Your thoughts can increase your escalation or calm you down\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eBecome aware of all your feelings, not just your anger, and learn to respectfully communicate them to others\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eTurn conflicts into positive problem-solving opportunities\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eControl, abuse, and violence are learned: Think about the messages you received from your family and from society about what it is to be a man\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eRedefine manhood as nonviolent and nonabusive\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eTake the risk to count on other men for emotional support\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eLearn to feel a genuine sense of pride by taking control of how you view the world and how you act\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eStart to believe that you can truly change the controlling and abusive parts of who you have been \u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e David J. Decker\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 1138467472\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781138467477\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Routledge\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 08\/21\/2017\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 318\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Hardcover","brand":"David J. Decker","offers":[{"title":"Hardcover","offer_id":48742506463487,"sku":"9781138467477","price":170.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/stopping-the-violence-david-j-decker-9781138467477","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}