{"product_id":"suffocating-in-plain-sight-benjamin-olusola-ajibade-9781066761340","title":"Suffocating in Plain Sight: Understanding Toxic Relationships, Cultural Silence, and the Courage to Leave","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat is happening to you is not your fault.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEmotional abuse without physical violence is among the most serious, and most consistently misread, forms of intimate partner harm. It leaves no bruise that a doctor can photograph, no incident that a friend can point to. It leaves people exhausted, confused, and convinced that something is wrong with them, when the truth is that something has been done to them.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDrawing on more than two decades of clinical practice and academic teaching in mental health nursing, Dr Benjamin Ajibade examines why coercive control is so difficult to name, why leaving is never as simple as walking away, and what genuine recovery actually requires.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eSuffocating in Plain Sight\u003c\/i\u003e moves through three movements. The first names what emotional abuse is, why it hides in plain sight even from the person living inside it, and what it does to the body and brain over time. The second examines the real barriers to leaving: cultural silence, religious teaching weaponised to demand endurance, financial entrapment, the impossible calculus of children, and the slow erosion of identity that makes a person forget who they were before. The third turns toward what comes after: the mental health cost of staying, the long and often non-linear process of deciding to go, and what courage and recovery actually look like once the decision has been made.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEach chapter is grounded in composite case studies drawn from clinical experience and the published research literature, spanning a deliberately wide range of genders, cultures, faiths, and circumstances. This is a book that refuses to treat intimate partner abuse as a single story. It is written for: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAnyone in or near a relationship that has started to feel like it is taking more than it gives\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHealthcare professionals, mental health nurses, social workers, and counsellors who want to ask better questions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRacially minoritised communities, where cultural and religious silence can make harm harder to name and leave\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFaith leaders and educators who are often the first point of contact for someone in crisis\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReaders of the author's memoir, \u003ci\u003eLove Is Not Enough\u003c\/i\u003e, who want to go deeper into the dynamics it explored\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eSuffocating in Plain Sight\u003c\/i\u003e does not offer easy answers. It offers something more durable: an honest, rigorously researched account of how harm is sustained, what makes it so hard to see, and what it takes, slowly and imperfectly, to choose yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"Written with declarative precision and humanity... Ajibade names what has been suffocating in plain sight, without pathologising the people or the cultures he writes about.\"\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- Professor Catherine Hayes, Professor of Health Professions Pedagogy and Scholarship\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Benjamin Olusola Ajibade\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 1066761345\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781066761340\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Ajibade Academic Publishing\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 06\/30\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 286\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.85lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.60d","brand":"Benjamin Olusola Ajibade","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":50665790865663,"sku":"9781066761340","price":26.49,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/suffocating-in-plain-sight-benjamin-olusola-ajibade-9781066761340","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}