{"product_id":"the-cost-of-quiet-colette-jane-fehr-9780593852743","title":"The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love","description":"\u003cb\u003eAn empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behavior in a relationship--disconnection, disengagement, and divorce--and shows how we can instead learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love most.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"I wish I had spoken up sooner.\"\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003ePeople think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We're afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eAvoidant behavior--the need to \"keep the peace\" rather than dealing with conflict head on--isn't our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially \"quiet quit\" our relationships. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eWe can make another choice. In \u003ci\u003eThe Cost of Quiet\u003c\/i\u003e, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behavior and how to overcome it. Drawing from the latest attachment science and evidence-based therapies she's used to repair the bond between hundreds of couples, Fehr gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. The ultimate goal: a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard--because a good relationship is worth fighting for.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Colette Jane Fehr\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0593852745\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780593852743\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e G.P. Putnam's Sons\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 02\/03\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 272\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Hardcover","brand":"Colette Jane Fehr","offers":[{"title":"Hardcover","offer_id":47243995349247,"sku":"9780593852743","price":30.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0662\/2982\/9887\/files\/img_0ef46d9f-3409-4ba0-8081-3699684b073c.jpg?v=1758134683","url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/the-cost-of-quiet-colette-jane-fehr-9780593852743","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}