{"product_id":"the-kids-we-misunderstand-rj-koehler-9798994500552","title":"The Kids We Misunderstand: How Connection Changes Behavior, Builds Trust, and Transforms Schools","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat if the students we struggle with the most... are the ones we understand the least?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEvery school has them.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe students who are labeled difficult.\u003cbr\u003eDisrespectful.\u003cbr\u003eUnmotivated.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe ones whose names are mentioned before they even walk through the door.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut what if behavior isn't the problem?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat if behavior is communication?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat if the actions that frustrate us most are actually signs of unmet needs, past experiences, trauma, or challenges we cannot see?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eThe Kids We Misunderstand: How Connection Changes Behavior, Builds Trust, and Transforms Schools\u003c\/i\u003e, educational leader RJ Koehler shares powerful real-life stories and practical strategies from years of working with students impacted by trauma, poverty, violence, instability, and loss.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom students working overnight to help support their families...\u003cbr\u003eTo students carrying invisible emotional wounds...\u003cbr\u003eTo students whose choices reflect struggles far beyond the classroom...\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book reveals what educators often don't see and explores what becomes possible when we choose connection over control.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis is not a book about lowering expectations.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt is not about excusing behavior.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt is about understanding the story behind the behavior so educators can respond with empathy, accountability, and purpose.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eInside, educators, school leaders, counselors, and student support professionals will discover how to: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstand student behavior through a trauma-informed lens\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBuild authentic relationships with students who feel disconnected or misunderstood\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCreate classrooms where students feel safe, valued, and ready to learn\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUse restorative practices and relationship-based strategies to address challenging behaviors\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStrengthen student engagement, belonging, and trust\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTransform school culture through connection-driven leadership\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eThrough honest storytelling and practical guidance, RJ Koehler challenges educators to rethink discipline, classroom management, and the way we define student success.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBecause the truth is: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThese are not bad kids.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThey are kids carrying things many of us were never asked to carry.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnd when we take the time to truly see them, we do more than change behavior.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWe change lives.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePerfect for teachers, principals, administrators, counselors, special education professionals, education students, and anyone committed to creating trauma-informed schools where every student has the opportunity to grow.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eContinue exploring RJ Koehler's work through her memoirs: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eWhat He Didn't Break: A Memoir of Narcissistic Abuse, Survival, and Reclaiming Your Life\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eWhen Love Is Not Enough: A Memoir of Parenting, Trauma, and Survival\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eChoosing Life After Loss: A Memoir of Survival, Suicide Loss, and Learning to Live Again\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Weight of Silence: A Memoir of Childhood Trauma, Survival, and Reclaiming Your Voice\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAcross her professional and personal writing, RJ Koehler explores one powerful truth: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eConnection changes everything.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Rj Koehler\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9798994500552\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Rj Koehler\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 07\/12\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 92\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.27lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.24d","brand":"Rj 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