{"product_id":"the-surrender-paradox-john-vanderkaay-9798304885409","title":"The Surrender Paradox: After War, Disaster, and Betrayal, Is Surrender An Option?","description":"The Surrender Paradox peels back the cover over Chaplain\u003cbr\u003e(Captain) John VanderKaay's experiences in war and Hurricane\u003cbr\u003eKatrina, his own struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder\u003cbr\u003e(PTSD), and the stigma against getting mental health help. Labeled\u003cbr\u003eas \"crazy,\" he was told by superiors, \"Good chaplains give help. They\u003cbr\u003edon't need help.\" He spiraled downward, and the blows just kept\u003cbr\u003ecoming. After a miraculous encounter with God, he began to fight\u003cbr\u003efor those struggling with unseen wounds of war, helping change\u003cbr\u003eDepartment of Defense's policies concerning those needing mental\u003cbr\u003ehelp. Going from mere seconds from surrendering to despair and\u003cbr\u003eending his life to the point of total surrender to God's grace, John\u003cbr\u003elearned that when you are overwhelmed by circumstances, surrender\u003cbr\u003eis the only way out. You cannot control everything and fight your\u003cbr\u003eway out alone. But who or what you surrender control to is of\u003cbr\u003ecritical importance. Do you surrender control to the despair and\u003cbr\u003ehopelessness that seems to come from all directions and leads to\u003cbr\u003edeath, or do you surrender control to the God who created you and\u003cbr\u003ewants to sustain you and give you life? Therein lies the surrender\u003cbr\u003eparadox. You must not surrender, but you must surrender! \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eDr. VanderKaay has been a minister for twenty-five-plus\u003cbr\u003eyears, having served as senior pastor (civilian) and senior\u003cbr\u003eProtestant chaplain (military), as well as a hospice and\u003cbr\u003ea mental health chaplain. He was medically retired as\u003cbr\u003esenior Protestant chaplain in the United States Air Force, \u003cbr\u003ehaving served countless temporary duty assignments and\u003cbr\u003ea combat tour in Iraq. After retiring from the military, \u003cbr\u003eDr. VanderKaay earned his doctorate in marriage and\u003cbr\u003efamily counseling. He now leads, while also counseling, coaching, and leading\u003cbr\u003econflict resolution teams, at the Center for Mighty Marriages \u0026amp; Families in\u003cbr\u003eConroe, Texas. Settling down after thirteen moves, he now lives outside of\u003cbr\u003eConroe, Texas, with his incredible wife of twenty-nine+ years, Terri, and their\u003cbr\u003efive children: Danielle, Lydia, Timothy, Stephen, and Nathanael.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e John Vanderkaay\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9798304885409\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 12\/27\/2024\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 132\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.41lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.28d","brand":"John Vanderkaay","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":49166775845119,"sku":"9798304885409","price":12.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/the-surrender-paradox-john-vanderkaay-9798304885409","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}