{"product_id":"two-brains-one-bed-roderick-john-ballard-9781764798952","title":"Two Brains, One Bed: A Neurodivergent-Affirming Guide to Communication, Conflict Repair, and Intimacy When One or Both of You Have Autism, ADHD, or Au","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhen Both of You Have Different Brains\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMost couples advice assumes both partners can hold a difficult conversation in real time, read each other's emotional cues, and repair a fight the same way. In AuDHD relationships, none of that is a given. When one or both of you have autism and ADHD, standard techniques often fail, and sometimes make things worse. The problem is not the two of you. The problem is that the methods were built for different nervous systems.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat This Book Offers\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThis book gives couples a practical, structured method adapted from the therapies that professional couples therapists use every day, recalibrated for how AuDHD nervous systems actually work under pressure. It draws on the Gottman method, emotionally focused therapy, and internal family systems informed relational work, and translates them into protocols you can use together, at three in the morning, without a therapist in the room.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eA Different Approach\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRather than tip lists or one-sided accommodation guides, this book treats both partners as active participants. It distinguishes between meltdown, shutdown, RSD spiral, and sensory overload as four distinct states requiring four different responses. It covers the three most common configurations: both partners AuDHD, one AuDHD and one autistic or ADHD only, and AuDHD with a neurotypical partner. It includes six practical appendices, from communication scripts to a wallet-sized emergency card for the moment when words are no longer available.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThis Book Is for Readers Who\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ehave recently learned that one or both partners are AuDHD, autistic, or ADHD\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ehave tried standard couples advice and found it did not fit their nervous systems\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ewant a shared vocabulary for regulation, repair, and sensory difference\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eare in queer or non-heteronormative relationships and want a resource that centers them\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eare considering couples therapy and want to prepare for it, or are looking for tools between sessions\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIf you want a clear, structured guide to building a relationship that works with your nervous systems rather than against them, this book offers a place to begin. It will not turn you into a neurotypical couple. It will help you build a functional AuDHD partnership on its own terms.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Roderick John Ballard\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 1764798953\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781764798952\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Therapybooks Publishing\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 07\/10\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 180\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.55lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.38d","brand":"Roderick John Ballard","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":49084337783039,"sku":"9781764798952","price":16.79,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/two-brains-one-bed-roderick-john-ballard-9781764798952","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}