{"product_id":"when-youre-audhd-and-your-ruth-margie-holmes-9781764563741","title":"When You're AuDHD and Your Child Has PDA: A Practical Survival Guide for Neurodivergent Parents Raising Demand-Avoidant Children","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe Only PDA Parenting Guide Written for the Parent Who Is Also Neurodivergent\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMost books about raising a child with Pathological Demand Avoidance are written for neurotypical parents. They assume a parent whose nervous system recovers quickly, whose executive function is intact under pressure, and who has never personally experienced what it feels like when a demand arrives as a threat. This guide is written for the parent who knows that feeling from the inside.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTwo Nervous Systems, One Household\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAuDHD parenting, the lived experience of raising a PDA-profiled child while navigating a combined autism and ADHD profile yourself, is qualitatively different from any other parenting situation described in current neurodivergent literature. The low-demand strategies that help your child work against your own executive function needs. The co-regulation your child requires depletes the exact reserves your autistic nervous system most needs to protect. Standard advice fails this household because standard advice was not built for it.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat This Guide Covers\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAcross eleven chapters and six practical appendices, this guide addresses the full terrain of the double-ND household: nervous system regulation for two, low-demand communication and declarative language, dual meltdown safety planning, school advocacy for PDA children when institutions push back, daily routines built around flexible structure rather than rigid scheduling, ARFID-aware meal approaches, late diagnosis grief and identity, co-parent and extended family dynamics, autistic burnout recognition and recovery, and the specific cognitive strengths the AuDHD profile brings to this parenting context.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBuilt for Executive Dysfunction\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEvery chapter includes APA-cited research, real household case studies, and practical tools designed to be usable at low cognitive function. The appendix tools, including a dual-ND safety plan template, school meeting prep cards, burnout warning signs checklist, and communication scripts, are formatted for access on the hard days, not just the good ones.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Parent This Book Was Written For\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLate-diagnosed AuDHD adults raising demand-avoidant children. Parents navigating the dual healing journey of understanding their own neurotype while actively supporting their child's. Families where the standard toolkit has consistently failed and a different framework is long overdue.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Ruth Margie Holmes\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 1764563743\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781764563741\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Jstone Publishing\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 02\/26\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 146\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.45lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.31d","brand":"Ruth Margie Holmes","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":48437691187455,"sku":"9781764563741","price":14.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0662\/2982\/9887\/files\/img_5224fbbd-cad1-4396-ac89-701f1d71b89b.jpg?v=1777163436","url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/when-youre-audhd-and-your-ruth-margie-holmes-9781764563741","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}