{"product_id":"why-cant-i-just-stop-dan-boynton-9798184617756","title":"Why Can't I Just Stop Self-Sabotaging?: Why You Get in Your Own Way, Why It Makes Sense, and How to Start Choosing Differently","description":"Why do I keep getting in my own way when I know what I want?\u003cp\u003eYou make the plan. You promise yourself this time will be different. You know what would help. And then, somehow, the old pattern shows up again.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou avoid the task. Push away the person. Overspend. Overeat. Shut down. Procrastinate. Wait to feel ready. Start over again on Monday.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnd afterward, the same painful question returns: \u003cb\u003eWhy do I keep doing this to myself?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eWhy Can't I Just Stop Self-Sabotaging?\u003c\/i\u003e is not another book telling you to try harder, be more disciplined, or finally get your life together. Instead, Dr. Dan Boynton offers a compassionate and practical look at why self-sabotage often makes sense once you understand what the pattern is trying to protect.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSelf-sabotage is not always laziness, weakness, or a lack of willpower. Sometimes it is fear. Sometimes it is shame. Sometimes it is an old survival strategy that once helped you feel safe but now keeps costing you the life, peace, relationships, health, or progress you actually want.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn this book, you will learn how to: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstand what self-sabotage really is\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRecognize the difference between a pattern and an identity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSee how shame and the inner critic keep the cycle going\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstand fear of failure and fear of success\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNotice avoidance, procrastination, and \"waiting to feel ready\"\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdentify how self-sabotage shows up in relationships, money, food, work, and health\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInterrupt the pattern in real time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBuild self-trust one small choice at a time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book will not ask you to hate yourself into change. It will help you understand the part of you that keeps getting in the way, recognize what it has been trying to do for you, and begin choosing differently without turning the process into another reason to feel like you are failing.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eYou are not the enemy.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe pattern is the problem.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnd even that pattern probably started as protection.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Dan Boynton\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9798184617756\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 06\/27\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 132\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFormat:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.41lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.28d","brand":"Dan Boynton","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":49174046867711,"sku":"9798184617756","price":14.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.whiterainbookhouse.com\/products\/why-cant-i-just-stop-dan-boynton-9798184617756","provider":"WR Book House","version":"1.0","type":"link"}