Attached: The New Science Of Adult Attachment And How It Can Help You Find And Keep Love

Relationships are a mystery to all of us. In most cases, it is really hard to foresight if one would work, hence we exhaust ourselves by trying and trying to find the perfect match. People, who find themselves stuck in undesired relationships may ask themselves: is it just my luck? Well, psychiatrist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S.F. Heller strongly oppose that. In their best-selling book, currently available at White Rain Book House, they offer a brand new perspective on relationships.

In developmental psychology, attachment theory claims there to be different kinds of attachment built between a child and the parents. To begin with, there are two kinds of insecure attachment. Anxious attachment happens when a child is always worried in any case of the absence of their parents, while avoidant attachment is the case when a baby seems like they could not care less about the presence of their parents. Then, there is secure attachment, in which a child is healthy and bonded with the parents, while not constantly worried about the continuity of their love towards him/her.

The book is built on Levine and Heller’s research that the way we bond with our S.O. resembles the way we bond with our parents during childhood. The attachment theory explains plenty of the undiscovered motives of the dating world: while secure people can have a secure relationship with anyone, anxious and avoidant people might find themselves in a toxic relationship with each other, with a lot of ups and downs. Anxiously attached people tend to have a fear of abandonment in an anxious-avoidant trap, while avoidant one can be thought as the ones with “commitment issues”. 

At White Rain Book House, we do not only recommend this book to single people who seek to be swept off their feet, we also recommend it to people with partners, who want to have a better understanding of their relationship patterns, and communicate better with their partner.

The book includes tests for the reader and the partner, which enables them to find out about their attachment styles, and helps them look out for the right signs. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep – Love, might be the most successful book about relationships, offering a strong theory with a scientific background.