A Mind in Calm: The Choice to become Firm, Resolute and Extraordinary (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798195831578)

This book is about becoming the person who remains calm no matter what happens around them or in their life. They have complete control over their mind and actions, making them rational, composed, and effective. They have learned and practiced the process of not letting anything disturb their mental peace. You will find them smiling even in complex situations and heavy losses, like a leader who has everything under control. They attract others like a magnet, with their ability to inspire confidence in people who desperately need support in times of crisis.

Pay attention the next time something terrible happens in a room you are in-a glass shattering, an argument escalating, a child falling, or news of a death arriving by phone. Watch the people. Most will react immediately. Their hands will rise to their mouths. Their voices will jump in pitch. Their bodies will lean forward or pull back, and their words will spill out before their thoughts have caught up. They will become, briefly, like the weather.

But there is almost always one person who does not move.

That person looks at the situation the way a surgeon looks at a wound. Their breath stays steady. Their voice, when it comes, is calm and unhurried. They reach for what is needed-a towel, a phone, a hand. They do not perform calm. They are calm. And in the minute that follows, almost everyone in the room naturally orients toward them, as though some invisible gravitational center has formed, pulling others into its orbit.

This book is about that person-about what is going on inside them, how they became that way, and how you can become that person in your own life, even in conditions far more demanding than a broken glass.

The structure is the same in each situation. There is a moment, and that moment demands more than the ordinary nervous system is built to give. You either rise to meet it or you don't. The difference between rising and not rising is not about character in a moral sense. It is something closer to a skill.

What I want to give you in these pages is not a set of inspirational images or a collection of sayings to put on a wall. I want to give you a working understanding-practical, neurobiological, philosophical, and lived-of how human beings become unshakeable. I want to give you both the architecture and the practice. I want to leave you with something real that you can build upon.