Changing Patterns: Breaking Generational Cycles (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9789786331003)

What if the pain you are carrying is not only yours?

What if the losses, the broken relationships, the feeling that no matter how hard you try the same story keeps finding you, what if none of it is coincidence? What if there is a pattern beneath the surface of your personal struggles, something older than your own memories, something inherited from people who never had the chance to heal before passing it forward?
Changing Patterns: Breaking Generational Cycles From Repetition to Transformation is the book that finally gives language to what so many people feel but cannot explain. That quiet, unsettling sense that you are living out something bigger than yourself. That the struggle has roots you have never been shown. That beneath the ordinary difficulties of your life, something is running that did not begin with you and will not end with you unless someone makes the deliberate choice to stop it.

This memoir was written from inside a life that was shaped, from the very first breath, by the weight of generational pain. Poverty, early loss, abandonment, broken relationships, a medical verdict that declared children an impossibility, and the particular, grinding loneliness of being the first person in your family line who finally stops moving long enough to ask why. It is honest in the way that only lived experience can be honest, and it will reach places in you that polished, theoretical self-help books simply cannot touch.

You will find yourself somewhere in these pages. Whether you have lost a parent before you were ready, moved through relationships that seem to echo one another in ways you struggle to explain, felt the presence of unspoken things in your family that everyone navigates around without ever naming directly, or simply sensed that the weight you are carrying has history attached to it that belongs to someone else, this book will name what you have been quietly living with.
You will receive practical, grounded guidance on what to do when you begin to recognise a pattern in your own life. Not motivational slogans or oversimplified frameworks, but the honest, difficult, necessary inner work of moving from awareness through decision and into genuine transformation.

• How to stop explaining away what you have started to see.
• How to ask the questions that actually matter. How to make different choices when the familiar ones feel safer and more certain.
• How to sustain the work of change across the long seasons when nothing visible seems to be shifting yet.

Most importantly, you will find hope that has been earned rather than inherited. Hope that was forged in a life that had every structural reason to repeat the same painful story and chose, through awareness and courage and persistent daily decision-making, to produce something entirely different.

This book was written for you if:
You have felt stuck in a cycle you cannot fully name or explain. You recognise patterns of loss, struggle, or painful dysfunction running through your family across more than one generation. You have carried grief that feels larger than the events that produced it, as though it arrived with weight already attached. You have been told, by circumstances or by people or by the quiet resignation that settles in after enough repetition, that this is simply how your story goes and you might as well accept it. You are ready, in whatever small and uncertain way is available to you right now, to become the person in your family line who makes the cycle stop.

Generational cycles are real. And so is the power to interrupt them.

The story does not have to keep repeating. It can change. It can change with you. It can change because of you.


Author: Oluwabunmi Esther Adeniji
ISBN-10: 9786331001
ISBN-13: 9789786331003
Publisher: Patuch Concepts
Language: English
Published: 07/07/2026
Pages: 124
Format: Paperback
Weight: 0.39lbs
Size: 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.29d