Differentiated Accountability: A Trauma-Informed Approach to Sexual Addiction, Betrayal Trauma, and Relational Repair (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798187215461)

Sexual betrayal does more than violate an agreement. It can destabilize attachment, sexuality, memory, and a person's confidence in what is real.

Recovery asks the person who caused harm to face behavior, deception, and consequences without hiding, defending, or collapsing into shame. Healing asks the betrayed partner to rebuild reality, agency, and self-trust without becoming responsible for managing another adult's recovery.

Differentiated Accountability offers a clinically informed, trauma-sensitive framework for this difficult work. Integrating behavioral accountability with Internal Family Systems, Intimacy from the Inside Out, betrayal-trauma treatment, abuse assessment, disclosure, and relational ethics, Yisroel Maiman, LCSW, shows how compassion and responsibility can remain in the same room.

Readers will learn to distinguish accountability from compliance, transparency from surveillance, boundaries from demands, emotional activation from present danger, and remorse from shame-based collapse. The book also introduces the shame-control loop, explains four distinct domains of healing, and offers a phase-sensitive path from assessment and stabilization toward recovery, individual healing, relational repair, reconciliation, or supported separation.

Written for people engaged in meaningful recovery, betrayed partners, therapists, sponsors, and other helpers, this book does not minimize the original harm or create false equivalence. Its central conviction is that responsibility may be profoundly unequal while human dignity remains equal.

Whether a relationship continues or ends, healing requires truth without humiliation, protection without domination, and accountability without self-abandonment.

Author: Yisroel Maiman Lcsw
ISBN-13: 9798187215461
Publisher: Independently Published
Language: English
Published: 07/20/2026
Pages: 228
Format: Paperback
Weight: 0.68lbs
Size: 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.52d