I Was Rude, But I Was Rude to an Idiot: Fearless Respect, Leadership, and the Corporate World's Problem with Honesty (Hardcover) (ISBN-13: 9789948699927)

Most leaders believe they must pick a side. Lean into culture, and you risk becoming WeWork. Lean into performance, and you become Uber. The data says you need both. The reality says most organizations achieve neither.

Over eighteen years in leadership and organisational strategy at companies like Mars, Lafarge, and Majid Al Futtaim, I saw the same pattern repeat itself. The systems designed to encourage openness, feedback, and culture were often the very things that were silencing people. I wrote the policies, ran the engagement surveys, and built the succession plans. Then I watched people become more careful, more hesitant, and less honest.

This book is my reckoning with that failure.

I Was Rude, But I Was Rude to an Idiot introduces Fearless Respect: the idea that leaders can care deeply about people while still demanding honesty, accountability, and high performance.

You will learn:

• Why some "psychological safety" initiatives make teams less honest, not more
• The difference between Necessary Friction and abuse, and why avoiding the first invites the second
• How the Performance-Culture Loop turns honest feedback into innovation and resilience
• Why the annual review has become a bureaucratic exercise, and what to replace it with
• The three non-negotiables of authentic leadership: vulnerability, humility, and consistency
• How frameworks like SBI and COIN turn vague criticism into clear, actionable feedback
• A practical 90-day action plan to move your team from hesitant agreement to honest dialogue

Drawing on real stories from boardrooms in Paris, Dubai, and everywhere in between, this book offers no theoretical fluff - just practical tools, uncomfortable truths, and a path to building an organization that is both antifragile and deeply human.