If Your Man Ain't Shit, Read This!: 2nd Ed. (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9781495822797)

To all of the ladies in the world now reading my latest mode of thought, and foremost, I want to thank you. I thank you for caring about yourself enough to pick this up. Although this is an informative piece of work, it s also intended to be corrective and preventive. As humans, we often get set in our ways, without knowing how or when we got there. Oftentimes, this allows us to display destructive negative behavior, thus drawing a wedge between us and those closest to us (our partners). This work is not derived from a class room. There hasn't been years of formally studying human behavior to the likes of a degree. There is one relationship that I draw from in particular. I laugh now, but when I was going through a lot of these things outlined in this book, it wasn't so funny then. Through this relationship I was helped to realize that love will make you do some strange things. So strange that you'll find yourself asking, "what in the hell am I doing"? This relationship is the one that taught me that patience is a true virtue when it comes to a relationship. Far from perfect, I've messed up and messed up; then corrected myself, just to mess up again, to the point where I started to wonder if something was wrong with me. After my relationship had taken its very last dive, I had to do some soul searching. I had to scratch the surface, because unlike any other time that the plug had been pulled, I wasn't willing to bend, alter, or correct anything this time. She was done and I was too. She had been a thing so constant and consistent in my life. When we parted ways, I felt "unwhole". I felt incomplete. Although I wasn't hurt by the flue measure of the word, I felt a great sense of disappointment. I had huge expectations for this relationship and person. On one of my many nights Iying around, just allowing my mind to freely roam, I thought back on the entirety of the relationship and when/how things had changed for us.