Intimacy: A Field Guide to Finding Connection and Feeling Your Deep Desires (Hardcover) (ISBN-13: 9780593596623)

From the foreword by Gillian Anderson: "A vital contribution to our understanding of intimacy both on screen and in life."

In this groundbreaking field guide to sex, love, and partnership, the pioneering intimacy coordinator behind Normal People pushes us to ask: What is desire? What is intimacy, and how do we find true connection?

As Intimacy Coordinator, Ita O'Brien has choreographed some of the most passionate and vulnerable intimate scenes onscreen. From Normal People to Sex Education to I May Destroy You, and in so many more productions, she has also made these scenes safer, more joyful and more empowering to perform in. No one knows intimacy, the power of true connection, better than her.

So, what can her work teach us about our own relationships, both with ourselves and others? How can we use her tools to discover what it is that we truly want in our intimate lives? And how can all of this create environments in which intimacy can take seed, grow and even thrive?

Combining embodied wisdom, behind-the-scenes stories and exercises for connection, Intimacy offers us a field guide to discovering our desires, communicating our needs, and cultivating truly intimate relationships at every stage of our lives.

Author: Ita O'Brien
ISBN-10: 0593596625
ISBN-13: 9780593596623
Publisher: Dial Press
Language: English
Published: 01/13/2026
Pages: 336
Format: Hardcover
Weight: 0.89lbs
Size: 8.25h x 5.50w x 0.69d