Is It Me Or Is It Them?: Why I Stopped Chasing the Holy Grail of Being Enough (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9781066665105)

Do you find yourself always being the one who carries?

The one who fixes things, smooths things over, holds everything together - and quietly wonders why, no matter how much you do, something never quite feels right.

For many men, that feeling started early. Not through obvious trauma, but through something subtler - learning that acceptance had conditions. That being 'good' meant being compliant. That your needs came second, and asking for more made you difficult.

In this honest and reflective memoir, Mark Borrington traces the patterns that shaped his life - from a childhood built around earning approval, to the quiet cost of always being the one who shows up.

This is not a book about blame. It is a book about understanding where those patterns came from - and what it takes to finally put them down.

"What stood out was the reflective tone throughout - learning to be yourself. And that's what really matters."

- Trudi Turner MBACP (Accred), Trauma Therapist

A memoir of identity, belonging, and the long journey back to yourself.