It's Not You: How Narcissistic People Break Us and How to Get Whole Again (Hardcover) (ISBN-13: 9780593492628)

A transformative guide to protecting and healing yourself from the narcissism you can't see, from psychologist and preeminent narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula

It's not always easy to tell when you're dealing with a narcissist. One day they draw you in with their confidence and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering, What could I have done differently?

As Dr. Ramani Durvasula reveals in It's Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing. Just as a tiger can't change its stripes, a narcissist won't stop manipulating and invalidating you. To heal in the aftermath of their abuse and protect yourself from future harm, you first have to accept that you are not to blame.

Deeply compassionate and revelatory, It's Not You examines how narcissists hijack our wellbeing and offers a healing path forward. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching, and helping clients navigate the landscape of narcissism, Dr. Durvasula unpacks the oft-misunderstood personality, showing how to identify the telltale signs that you may be dealing with a narcissist and protect yourself from their toxic influence. Along the way, you'll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep us stuck in these cycles, grieve the losses, create realistic boundaries, learn the fine art of discernment, and recover your sense of self after years of invalidation.

Healing and thriving after or even during a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but it is possible. It's Not You shows that the first step is to stop trying to change the narcissistic person, stop blaming yourself, and start giving yourself permission to foster your autonomy and sense of self outside of this relationship.

Author: Ramani Durvasula
ISBN-10: 0593492625
ISBN-13: 9780593492628
Publisher: Open Field
Language: English
Published: 02/20/2024
Pages: 352
Format: Hardcover
Weight: 1.06lbs
Size: 8.25h x 5.50w x 0.88d