LIFT for Children (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9780982420454)

"Please don't be mad at me! It makes me scared."

In 50 years of counseling with over 4,000 children, author Gary Unruh has heard that yearning again and again, as well as:

"When we have a problem, you never understand me."

Now there is new hope for families. By using the powerful LIFT parenting tools explained in this book, you will accomplish four transformative outcomes for your child:

1. Remix core Love and Fear emotions to see immediate behavior and thought improvement.

2. Dismantle fear and anger during conflict with actionable, result-driven love.

3. Validate inside emotions causing outside behavior, cementing foundational value.

4. Fulfill the Golden Rule-your child's acquired value becomes "I'm lovable," followed by "I want to love others the way I love myself."

Here is the LIFT secret revealed inside these pages:

At the beginning of a conflict, parents validate their child's inner fear and anger first, then deal with the behavior.

The idea that "emotions cause behavior" is backed up by recent Affective Neurology findings. LIFT's application is like a laser treatment to reduce your child's fear and anger. You will be amazed as you learn how to apply LIFT's multiple strategies and tactics, new to the parenting world. At first LIFT will feel like a foreign language, but your child will understand immediately. You and your child will experience closeness, even during conflict, through emotion validation-the ultimate parent/child love experience.