Must We Say We Did Not Love? (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9780998244624)

Are you going through a divorce or break-up? Are you a professional helping divorcing couples and families get through the process? Whether acrimonious or amicable, divorce is a painful process that imposes emotional, financial, and ethical strains on everyone involved. Many people are now seeking the help of teams of professionals to take them through this transition in a respectful, non-adversarial way so that those divorcing and their children will come through the process as whole as possible. . If you are a professional, here is a resource you can offer your clients. . If you are going through a divorce yourself, this book can help you reach closure and gain the strength to move forward unbroken. After completing the legal process, adults and children alike may still feel the need for some kind of rite of passage to cement their intentions so they can move on into the future instead of staying stuck in the past. Parents may want to offer their children greater security and ease in the transition. Based on the author's 25 years' work co-creating rituals with divorcing couples and families, this book shows you how. By sharing engaging stories of real people in varied circumstances, Naff highlights key elements to consider in creating a divorce ritual that's appropriate for you. The ritual can be simple and informal or structured and intricate, honoring each person's beliefs and/or philosophy. Grounded in a brilliant analysis of the psycho-spiritual value of ritual, this book offers you a way to deeper peace and resolution through a 4-element process, flexible enough to fit your feelings and values, your children's needs, and your goals for the future. Even in the midst of pain and anger, you can create an opportunity for healing.