Self-Hatred: Why Do We Hate Ourselves? - Beyond Self-Hatred, How to Regain Peace of Mind (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798992299908)

"By unraveling the unconscious chains of self-hatred through this book, you will not only find solutions to your personal problems, but also to issues involving others and a wide range of life's challenges."

This book addresses various approaches to healing trauma-including the theme of "self-hatred"-while also offering insights into how to avoid emotional wounds in daily life, understand human relationships, and guide oneself toward psychological maturity.

Key Points of This Book:

1. Self-hatred is a psychological trait that everyone possesses to some degree. It can manifest as self-criticism, severe self-deprecation, self-loathing, or guilt.
2. At the root of self-hatred lies concealed self-love and a sense of superiority. Attempts to become a better self have become distorted, leading to negative outcomes.
3. We often identify with a negative self-image and strive to maintain it-an instinct to protect ourselves mistakenly at work.
4. Overcoming self-hatred requires not the mere suppression or neglect of it, but understanding its mechanisms and bringing them into consciousness.
5. We must not view "I" as something defined by content or conditions, but instead recognize our unconditional value as an existing being.
6. Hatred or projection toward others can be an expression of self-hatred. Recognizing and overcoming this is crucial.
7. Healthy relationships require the pursuit of horizontal love rather than vertical dependence.
8. By overcoming self-hatred and practicing genuine self-love, we can lead happier and more abundant lives.

The structure of this book's five chapters is as follows:

-Chapter 1 explores the hidden psychology behind self-hatred. It examines why we come to hate ourselves and reveals our original psychology. Through this understanding, we discover that self-hatred isn't truly self-hatred, allowing us to treat ourselves fairly and objectively.

-Chapter 2 examines projection. Much of self-hatred stems from negative projection. Those who love themselves healthily don't unfairly hate others. By understanding our projection psychology, we can free ourselves from both self-hatred and hatred toward others.

-Chapter 3 focuses on identity-a crucial life issue. Many adults lack healthy identities despite being expected to guide children. This chapter helps us grasp the essence of identity and develop a healthy, mature sense of self.

-Chapter 4 addresses healing. Self-hatred often stems from past emotional wounds. Here we learn to neither obsess over nor suppress wounds, but rather to embrace and overcome them.

-Chapter 5 examines relationships and empathy. Self-hatred is both individual and collective. It introduces the concept of "one with two polarities" and "two truths"-we're neither separate entities nor a uniform whole. Through self-expansion, we can transcend self-hatred.