The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: How to Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles and Build Lasting Connection with Your Partner (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9781648485459)

A powerful, attachment-based guide to help you and your partner spark true and lasting connection.

Do you and your partner have different needs when it comes to your relationship? Perhaps you desire more intimacy and reassurance, while they value independence and tend to keep you at arms-length? Or maybe you feel "trapped," while they act "clingy?" If this sounds familiar, you and your partner may have opposing attachmentstyles--ways of relating to one another based on your unmet childhood needs.

Written by a behavioral psychologist and relationship specialist, this groundbreaking guide offers evidence-based strategies to help you break free from this toxic push-pull pattern so you can build trust, security, and a deeper connection with your partner. Grounded in behavior therapy and attachment theory, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap will help you and your partner gain a better understanding of each other, so you can improve communication, avoid emotional triggers, and bring joy back into your relationship.

With this compassionate guide, you will:

• Discover how attachment styles are formed in childhood
• Identify three "core wounds" of attachment trauma
• Recognize signs of anxious or avoidant attachment in adulthood
• Develop skills to respond to your partner while reducing emotional triggers

Fostering a deeper connection with your partner requires recognizing your own unique attachment style and specific needs--as well as your partner's. The tools in this go-to guide will help you both heal the invisible wounds caused by your past--so you can build a bond together that truly stands the test of time.