The Bully and the Bullied (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9781662447877)

What causes a person to bully another? Is it hate? Jealousy? Their own self-brokenness? To be a bully is a tragedy of the soul, but worse yet, to be the victim of bullying goes beyond just a tragedy but utter devastation and destruction of an innocent person's personhood. The victim, the target of a bully's inner inadequacies, is violated by someone who has severe brokenness. The victim is now left fragmented, depending on the degree of bullying and the strength of the victim to brace themselves against the pressure. Bullying is the stealing of an innocent person's right to be who they are. Their space is violated, and their valuables are stolen. They are left to feel like a victim, a fragment of who they were or who they used to be. A bully takes away, by force and illegally, the rights of someone else to live in their own unique and personal identity as a single-framed human being. Bullying is a disease of the soul that, if left unchecked, will carry over into a society of adults and leaders who have continued their bad characters from childhood into their adulthood, giving us a society that is filled with a denseness of moral "bullies." Bullying must be stopped. There is a cure, and there has to be a willingness to work together to end its infectious quest because it leaves an innocent person fragmented and needing to pick up the pieces of their lives to put them back together again. For some, it is very difficult; therefore, they sought a way out, so they commit suicide; for others, though it is very difficult, they seek help for the restoration of their "selves" so that they may continue with their lives, and yet for others, they live broken for the rest of their lives, society being robbed of who they could have been and the virtue that they could have contributed. Bullying is everyone's problem, and we all must work with intense purpose to destroy it from the root.

To the bully, what makes a bully a bully? It is indeed brokenness on the inside. Issues and troubles are not always the reason for one's brokenness; brokenness, at times, occurs due to a flaw in one's character. Many who have everything they could ever wish for bully others because there is a certain satisfaction in inflicting pain. To the bully, it is not okay to steal someone's soul (mind, will, emotions). The toxic behavior of bullying another person is a sign that a bully needs psychological intervention. For a bully, there is hope; there is help. If you are a bully, seek help because bullying not only destroys another person's life, but it destroys the bully's as well because there will be consequences.

To the victim, know that it is not your fault but that you are an innocent victim of someone's brokenness. What happened to you is tragic and unjust. You can recover all that you have lost. In your journey of healing, continue to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to flow in grieve and recovery because, at the end of your journey, you will have become a stronger and wiser version of yourself. It'll be you but with greater wisdom and greater power. The bullying will have given you the opportunity to learn and grow in ways you may not have grown had the bullying never occurred. So deal with it, process it, grieve, then move on. Use it to strengthen YOU, adding to your wealth of moral goodness.