The Forgiving Self: The Road from Resentment to Connection (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9780385488747)

A fascinating book about our struggle to forgive--and how we can--from a renowned psychologist and award-winning author.

Why do we harden our hearts, even against those we want to love? Why do we find it so hard to admit being wrong? Why are the worst grudges the ones we hold against ourselves? When we nurse our resentments, Robert Karen says, we are acting from an insecure aspect of the self that harbors unresolved pain from childhood. But we also have a forgiving self which is not compliant or fake, but rather the strongest, most loving part of who we are. Through it, we are able to voice anger without doing damage, to acknowledge our own part in what has gone wrong, to see the flaws in ourselves and others as part of our humanity.

Using movies, people in the news, and sessions from his practice, Karan illuminate how we can move beyond our feelings of being wronged without betraying our legitimate anger and need for repair. The forgiving self, when we are able to locate it, brings relief from compulsive self-hatred and bitterness, and allows for a re-emergence of love.

Author: Robert Karen
ISBN-10: 0385488742
ISBN-13: 9780385488747
Publisher: Anchor Books
Language: English
Published: 07/08/2003
Pages: 304
Format: Paperback
Weight: 0.51lbs
Size: 7.98h x 5.29w x 0.67d