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The Second Life: Western Men, Asian Wives, and the Price of Starting Over in Thailand, the Philippines or Cambodia (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798190248616)
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xTHE SECOND LIFE Western Men, Asian Wives, and the Price of Starting Over in Thailand, the Philippines, and Cambodia Derek was fifty-nine, divorced, and invisible - the kind of man Western dating apps had quietly stopped showing to anyone. Then he did the math: the same pension that bought him a shrinking life in England could buy him a house, a truck, and something he'd stopped believing existed - a woman who wanted to be with him. He booked a flight to Thailand. He never fully came home.
The Second Life follows the men who make this calculation, and the women on the other side of it who make their own. Derek, married to Nok, a Thai woman half his age, whose family expects him to provide and whose own future depends on a bet she made at twenty. Hans, whose marriage survives his Parkinson's diagnosis only to reveal who really holds the power once a body starts failing. Ray, becoming a father again at sixty-one, doing the arithmetic on whether he'll live to see his son grow up. Colin, who came home from Thailand with less than he left with, and nothing to show a Thai court for the money he lost. And Sara, a Filipina who marries an American and discovers, on a K-1 visa in small-town Ohio, that the power in these marriages doesn't disappear when a woman crosses the ocean in the opposite direction - it simply changes hands.
This is not a book about scandal or sex tourism. It's a forensic, deeply human accounting of a bargain that hundreds of thousands of people have made - and are making right now - built on real research into Thai and Filipino marriage migration, cross-border property law, elder care, inheritance disputes, and the demographic collapse reshaping both sides of this exchange. It asks the questions the retirement blogs never do: What does this actually cost, once you count everything? Who cares for you when you're old and can't get home? And when it's over - divorce, death, or simply time - was it worth it?
Told through the honest, unflinching voices of the men who did it and the women who lived it with them, The Second Life is the story of what happens when love, money, and migration collide - and what's left standing when the money runs out.
Author: Robert Van Der Veur
ISBN-13: 9798190248616
Publisher: Independently Published
Language: English
Published: 08/01/2026
Pages: 208
Format: Paperback
Weight: 0.63lbs
Size: 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.44d
The Second Life follows the men who make this calculation, and the women on the other side of it who make their own. Derek, married to Nok, a Thai woman half his age, whose family expects him to provide and whose own future depends on a bet she made at twenty. Hans, whose marriage survives his Parkinson's diagnosis only to reveal who really holds the power once a body starts failing. Ray, becoming a father again at sixty-one, doing the arithmetic on whether he'll live to see his son grow up. Colin, who came home from Thailand with less than he left with, and nothing to show a Thai court for the money he lost. And Sara, a Filipina who marries an American and discovers, on a K-1 visa in small-town Ohio, that the power in these marriages doesn't disappear when a woman crosses the ocean in the opposite direction - it simply changes hands.
This is not a book about scandal or sex tourism. It's a forensic, deeply human accounting of a bargain that hundreds of thousands of people have made - and are making right now - built on real research into Thai and Filipino marriage migration, cross-border property law, elder care, inheritance disputes, and the demographic collapse reshaping both sides of this exchange. It asks the questions the retirement blogs never do: What does this actually cost, once you count everything? Who cares for you when you're old and can't get home? And when it's over - divorce, death, or simply time - was it worth it?
Told through the honest, unflinching voices of the men who did it and the women who lived it with them, The Second Life is the story of what happens when love, money, and migration collide - and what's left standing when the money runs out.
Author: Robert Van Der Veur
ISBN-13: 9798190248616
Publisher: Independently Published
Language: English
Published: 08/01/2026
Pages: 208
Format: Paperback
Weight: 0.63lbs
Size: 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.44d
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