The Secure Self: How to Free Yourself from Anxious Attachment and Transform Your Relationships from Within (Hardcover) (ISBN-13: 9798318605369)

Heal the unhealthy patterns of an anxious attachment style by rebuilding your most essential relationship--with yourself--in this guide from the host of the world's leading attachment theory podcast.

Relationship anxiety doesn't only surface during conflict. It lives in the waiting, the monitoring, the second-guessing, and the deep exhaustion of longing to feel safe with another person. For those with anxious attachment patterns, connection can feel fragile--something that must be continually earned through reassurance, proximity, or effort.

In The Secure Self, Stephanie Rigg, a relationship coach and host of the world's leading attachment podcast, On Attachment, offers readers a different path: one that leads not toward fixing their relationships, but toward first building something more foundational--a secure relationship with yourself. Drawing on years of guiding thousands of clients and students, as well as her own lived experience of anxious attachment, she reframes this attachment style not as a flaw, but as a pattern rooted in a deeply human need for connection--one that, once understood, can begin to shift towards something steadier and more secure.

Throughout the book, readers are guided to:

• Understand how anxious attachment fuels overthinking, hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and emotional reactivity
• Build internal safety through self-compassion, nervous system regulation, healthy boundaries, and self-trust
• Navigate dating, relationships, and breakups with greater confidence, clarity, and self-respect
• Create healthier, more balanced relationships from a grounded sense of self rather than fear

Grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical, The Secure Self invites you to stop looking outward for the security you've always longed for and to start building it from within--so that love becomes something that expands rather than completes you.

Author: Stephanie Rigg
ISBN-13: 9798318605369
Publisher: Hay House LLC
Language: English
Published: 02/02/2027
Pages: 257
Format: Hardcover