The Straight Man Who Thought He Was Gay: Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma Through My Body (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798994392201)

This memoir follows a man's healing from trauma-shaped, disembodied sex toward an embodied life. In clinical psychology, trauma is known to shape arousal and attachment, yet its effects on sexual identity are rarely discussed outside professional circles.

Written from the nervous system outward, this memoir traces how early trauma can influence desire, bonding, and self-understanding. Born in Pakistan and later finding his way to the tech corridors of Silicon Valley, Faraz spends decades living a life that functions on the surface while carrying unresolved trauma in the body.

Across classrooms and dance floors, offices and mountain trails, the narrative follows a long, nonlinear process of healing through steady relationships, somatic therapy, movement, and community. What once froze begins to thaw. What scattered slowly gathers.

With an engineer's precision and a restrained, sensory voice, the book moves away from sanded-down wellness solutions and into lived bodily experience-how dissociation protects, how safety returns, and how agency re-emerges not through insight alone, but through learning to follow bodily instincts.

This is a first book, written for those-especially men-who carry invisible bruises and are ready to trade the mask of belonging for a deeper, embodied sense of self.

This memoir is about trauma, not sexual orientation. It affirms LGBTQ+ identities and does not question or challenge them.