The Surrender Paradox: After War, Disaster, and Betrayal, Is Surrender An Option? (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798304885409)

The Surrender Paradox peels back the cover over Chaplain
(Captain) John VanderKaay's experiences in war and Hurricane
Katrina, his own struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder
(PTSD), and the stigma against getting mental health help. Labeled
as "crazy," he was told by superiors, "Good chaplains give help. They
don't need help." He spiraled downward, and the blows just kept
coming. After a miraculous encounter with God, he began to fight
for those struggling with unseen wounds of war, helping change
Department of Defense's policies concerning those needing mental
help. Going from mere seconds from surrendering to despair and
ending his life to the point of total surrender to God's grace, John
learned that when you are overwhelmed by circumstances, surrender
is the only way out. You cannot control everything and fight your
way out alone. But who or what you surrender control to is of
critical importance. Do you surrender control to the despair and
hopelessness that seems to come from all directions and leads to
death, or do you surrender control to the God who created you and
wants to sustain you and give you life? Therein lies the surrender
paradox. You must not surrender, but you must surrender!

Dr. VanderKaay has been a minister for twenty-five-plus
years, having served as senior pastor (civilian) and senior
Protestant chaplain (military), as well as a hospice and
a mental health chaplain. He was medically retired as
senior Protestant chaplain in the United States Air Force,
having served countless temporary duty assignments and
a combat tour in Iraq. After retiring from the military,
Dr. VanderKaay earned his doctorate in marriage and
family counseling. He now leads, while also counseling, coaching, and leading
conflict resolution teams, at the Center for Mighty Marriages & Families in
Conroe, Texas. Settling down after thirteen moves, he now lives outside of
Conroe, Texas, with his incredible wife of twenty-nine+ years, Terri, and their
five children: Danielle, Lydia, Timothy, Stephen, and Nathanael.

Author: John Vanderkaay
ISBN-13: 9798304885409
Publisher: Independently Published
Language: English
Published: 12/27/2024
Pages: 132
Format: Paperback
Weight: 0.41lbs
Size: 9.00h x 6.00w x 0.28d