Unchosen: Healing The Wounds Of Parental Abandonment (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798181350076)

Abandonment leaves a mark long before we have the words to describe it. For some, it begins in childhood a parent who walked away, a presence that faded, a love that never fully arrived. For others, it appears later in life through broken promises, fractured families, or relationships that collapsed without warning. No matter when it happens, the wound is real, and it shapes far more than we often admit.

This book was born from that reality.

For years, I carried questions I didn't know how to ask and pain I didn't know how to name. I watched my own child wrestle with the ache of being left behind, and I felt the weight of trying to fill roles I was never meant to carry alone. I learned that abandonment is not just an event it is an echo. It reverberates through identity, trust, relationships, and even faith.

But I also learned something else: God does not abandon the abandoned.

He steps into the empty spaces people leave behind. He contends for the wounded. He restores what was broken. He calls us chosen when others call us forgotten.

This book is not about blaming the one who left. It is about healing the one who stayed. It is about helping you:

• Name the wound without shame

• Understand the patterns that shaped you

• Rebuild your identity through Christ

• Support your children through their own healing

• Release the pain that has followed you for years

• Choose a future that looks different from your past

You will find Scripture woven throughout these pages not as decoration, but as foundation. Verses like Psalm 35:1, Psalm 27:10, and Isaiah 43:1 are not just comforting words; they are anchors for the soul, reminders that God sees, defends, and restores His children.

My hope is that as you read, you will feel understood, not judged. Seen, not overlooked. Strengthened, not ashamed.

You may have been unchosen by someone who should have stayed but you are chosen by the One who never leaves. Your story is not defined by who walked away, but by the God who walked in.

This is the beginning of your healing. This is the reclaiming of your identity. This is the moment you step out of the shadow of abandonment and into the truth of who you are.

Welcome to Unchosen. I'm honored to walk this journey with you.

Beyond the pain and the questions, Unchosen is a journey toward reclaiming the parts of yourself that abandonment tried to silence. It invites you to confront the lies that formed in the absence of love and replace them with the truth of who God says you are. Through practical guidance, biblical wisdom, and heartfelt reflection, this book helps you rebuild the foundations of identity, trust, and belonging not on the shifting ground of human choices, but on the unshakeable love of a God who never leaves. Whether you are healing for yourself, for your child, or for generations to come, these pages will walk with you as you rediscover your worth, restore your voice, and step into the life God intended.

Anchored in Scripture: Psalm35:1 "Contend, Lord, withthosewhocontendwithme;fightagainstthosewhofightagainstme." Psalm27:10 "Thoughmyfatherandmotherforsakeme, theLordwillreceiveme." Psalm23:1 "TheLordismyshepherd;Ishallnotwant." Psalm51:10 "Createinmeacleanheart, OGod;andrenewarightspiritwithinme."

Author Shaie Cris