"Why Do I Sabotage Everything?" The Rainbow Therapy Tools Guide to Inner Critics and Self-Sabotage: A gentle, trauma-informed guide to understanding t (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9798299400168)

Why do I sabotage everything - and how do I stop?

If you've ever procrastinated on the project you cared most about, picked fights just when things were going well, or felt like a fraud even when you were thriving - you're not alone. Self-sabotage isn't laziness or weakness. It's protection. It's your mind and body doing their best to keep you safe... even if the methods are outdated and exhausting.

"Why Do I Sabotage Everything?" is a gentle, trauma-informed guide to understanding your inner critic and learning how to work with it, not against it. Drawing on insights from person-centred therapy, compassion-focused therapy, and mindfulness, this book helps you:

• Recognise common sabotage patterns - procrastination, perfectionism, quitting, avoidance - and where they come from.

• Understand the roles of your inner critic, protector, and vulnerable self.

• Break free from shame spirals and soften the voice that says you're "not enough."

• Explore why success can feel dangerous, especially if you've experienced trauma, marginalisation, or rejection.

• Practise daily tools for self-support, repair after setbacks, and gentle growth that sticks.

Written in a warm, chatty style, this book is especially welcoming to LGBTQIA+ and neurodiverse readers, offering affirming strategies for navigating visibility, masking, and belonging.

This is not a quick-fix manual or another pressure-filled self-improvement plan. It's a compassionate companion for anyone tired of fighting with themselves.

You don't need to defeat your inner critic. You only need to understand it - and learn to walk alongside it with kindness.