You Can't Know What You Don't Know Until You Know It: Surviving the Perfect Storm of my Empathic Relationship with a Narcissist (Paperback) (ISBN-13: 9781981186471)

Donna Levesque discovered twenty-three years too late what the term narcissistic personality disorder means and the damage it can inflict on an innocent spouse. It wasn't until she was divorcing her husband that she learned the truth about his disorder, and suddenly the years of lies, manipulation, adultery, and addiction made sense. In her book, Levesque explains how her own empathic personality made her the perfect victim of her husband's narcissistic desires and demands.

Even after filing for divorce and learning of his sex addiction, criminal activity, bankruptcy, and boundless depths of cruelty, Levesque still struggled with her empathic tendencies to rescue and "fix" the man she had loved for so long.

Using e-mails, texts, and letters, Levesque chronicles the painful months it took to navigate her divorce from a man willing to resort to almost anything to keep her in his life. She provides insight into why victims choose to stay with a narcissist and why it is so difficult to leave and then shows the reader how she survived and ultimately freed herself from a relationship with a toxic person.