The Four Agreements Companion Book: Using the Four Agreements to Master the Dream of Your Life
The Four Agrements book is our special recommendation for our readers who are interested in books on personal development and do not know where to start. We proudly present this unique work to the followers of the White Rain House Book with a high level of understanding, satisfying and complementary language. Miguel Ruiz is the author of this tutorial, which was commissioned to share Toltec teachings. He defines Toltecism as "it would be more accurate to define it not as a religion but as an art of life". The Toltec wisdom brought to life by the Mexican Indians is not a dead tradition existing only in legends and stories, but a living teaching still practiced as animism in some parts of the world today.
This valuable book that will bring enlightenment to your life and perspective is waiting for you on the shelves of White Rain Book House. The titles of the book, which talks about the 4 agreements we need to make in order to live better, are as follows: "Be Impeccable with Your Word; Don't Take Anything Personally; Don't Make Assumptions; and Always Do Your Best."The author talks about how our beliefs limit our view of the world, and prejudices are gradually built up in our minds through educational and cultural conditioning.
The conditioning according to what is right or wrong, good or bad, beautiful or ugly, what we should or should not do, be or not be, is engraved in our brains from the moment we are born. All of this tends to make us grow up with a false image of ourselves and the world around us. Our view of the world is based on this learning, often against ourselves. And when we try to overcome these beliefs that attract us, we live in fear. Over the course of our lives, these limiting beliefs deprive us of joy, thus feeding fear and creating pain and unhappiness.
Don Miguel Ruiz suggests making four self-pacts aimed at breaking our limiting beliefs. By revealing the source of these limiting beliefs, he shows in very simple terms how one can escape from collective conditioning, from what he called the "dream of the planet" based on fear. Drawing attention to the power of the words we use, the book states that words will be effective like a spell.
The first agreement proposes that we erase all traces of destructive words from within us, such as criticism, slander, intolerance, humiliation, and even lies. By being mindful of our words, we can clear our minds of all negativity. The idea is to sow kind words and focus on the intent put into them. We tend to place too much emphasis on what other people think of us and are affected by it. Yet we forget that the opinion they express is a reflection of their beliefs, not ours. They simply reflect their surroundings to us. Therefore, we should not attach importance to judgment. Yet we suffer at their words because we fear not being loved, not recognized, not appreciated. We tend to make assumptions about everything.
This third agreement asks us to stop seeing and hearing what we want to see and hear and to assume that the world sees life as we see it. Letting go of assumptions allows for healthy relationships and communication that is freer and free from unnecessary conflict over the other's intentions. And on reflection, I realized that many of the assumptions I made in my life were sources of conflict, either within themselves or with others. It's about doing your best, being productive, and doing what you want without expecting rewards. And our "best" will never be the same at times, depending on the situation or our mood. The idea is to avoid doing too much anyway, coming out of the perfectionism that makes us unproductive and exhausted, and doing too little at the risk of regretting our laxity and apathy.